Dr.Dave: Curiousity Cures!

We've all seen them: the sultry temptress, the smooth Casanova, the fiery kitten.

They are all stereotypes of seducers. Whether it is by their striking beauty, or their alluring presence, or their undeniable desires, seducers tend to get their way,

So for all those who aren't naturally endowed seducers there is hope! Learn how to use utilise the seducer's tactics to maintain control (and dignity) over yourself (that is, if you choose to.)

How to Neutralise a Seducer:

1. Acknowledge. The seducer thrives on covertness. She will rely on certain words or physical touch to trigger of desirable feelings. Learn to realise when you are being seduced. By acknowledging the seducer that yes, you are really getting seduced, the shroud of mystery disappears allowing your eyes to converse with the seducer clearly and most importantly, uninhibited. Furthermore, it sends a signal out to the seducer that, 'I am falling for your trap so easily, try again...if you dare!'
2. Build Self-Esteem of the Seducer. The seducer will rely on making YOU feel really good about yourself that you can't help but sticking beside him. Well, there's nothing wrong about that, everyone (seducer or victim) desires to be among caring people, right? Right! So what's stopping you from making the Seducer feel good as well? By building the seducer's self-esteem (or ego) so high that he begins to FORGET about making YOU feel good that you will stop the seducer on his tracks. Make people feel good, not only for seduction, but also because it builds good character.
3. Focus on Positive Intentions. Seducer tend to focus on short-term pleasures, and at the same time, are just like other human beings (i hope!)...they desire long lasting love, protection, understanding and family to name a few values. Seducing, in my opinion, is just a dirty shortcut to these basic human needs. It's OK. Forgive them. When you focus your mind to give only positive energy to the frequency of love, protect, understanding family etc, you start to behave in a manner that's in tune (and very desirable) with the seducer. For example, if your positive intention is make the seducer feel understood, you will genuinely start to take interest in her life, both the good and the bad parts. Once you start to appear genuine to her, she will have no choice but to put aside the mask. And that's when you start to weave your magic.
   
4. Play by the Seducer's Rules...Deliberately. Coming soon...

I enjoy being seduced, it makes me feel attractive. Makes me feel that I'm doing something right in my life to attract all these beautiful people...litter ally. At the same time, I feel sorry for the seducer, for she wears a deceptive mask. I know what she truly wants, I know she wants to take it off, but is afraid people won't accept what lays behind the mask...who knows that what undeniable beauty may be discovered.

Labels: dating, love, seduction

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You may find this interesting...found it on Celine's blog.






So powerful a picture can be...

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This weekend a took a day leave to attend a conference attended by my church. Ok i have to admit, I've never actually gone to a religious conference before and my friend would be probably laughing at me if they found out I did, but yes I did, and I enjoyed it tremendously! Besides all the churchy things that happens on there (singing, praying, meeting people), I had another chance to look back on how I've been living my life the last few months here in Singapore...

So rarely do I get the opportunity to completely pull myself out of my work. Walking outside during break time and enjoying the cool breeze weave through the trees reminded me so much about the tranquility of my hometown, Victoria. At that moment I felt such a wave of joy soothing my exhausted body and mind. I felt the stress that I've been holding so long just wither away and what remained was a lighter (and bouncier) David!
When I looked back at the last few months I saw that it went by so fast. Yes, it was an exciting, enriching and exhausing period and there were many moments of achievement that I will never forget...yet at the same time they were just fleeting moments nothing substantial. Let's take a look at my Values that drove me at that time (Sept 2006):

Towards Values (values I strive to be closer to)

• Importance
• Control and Purpose
• Respect
• Recognition
• Satisfaction

And my Away From Values (what I want to avoid)

• Being Inferior
• Failure
• Rejection
• Embarrassment
• Dissapointing others, and myseslf
  

I noticed now that it was a very self-centered value based system. I wanted to control all parts of my life. I felt that could manage everything perfectly to become a very successful and famous person. I was the Master!

But late last year I realized that wasn't so true after all...I am not the Master after all...

Drum roll....(Dave gets super religious NOW)...God is the Master. And it makes so much sense (which i'll explain in the future).

Last year was a Year of Transition, as a changed from Uni student to Full-Time employee. Times were tough, and the lessons were painful.

This year is the Year of Victory as I will achieve a new level of success in ALL areas in my life, and will become even closer to doing what I love.

The clock is ticking, the last year was just a warm. Bring it on!

Labels: Looking back, Values

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yes, new blog template, yes, a child! I will start to customise shortly. in the mean time..

"Stay Curious, Stay Child-like"
-DrDave

Think about it.

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APRIL 27th, 2006. It's only a few hours now until i leave. It's weird not having any school to go back to. I guess part of the challenge now is the whole mentality shift from school boy to fresh intern. A lot of the assumptions and plans I have right at this moment will be challenged and will no doubt change in the following year. It seems right now that the future is not predictable as it once was, which in itself has an upside. Though it is reassuring and no doubt less stressful to live life in regular patter, it can (and uni does) get boring. Unpredictability, uncertainty presents itself an unsettling (no pun intended) lifestyle. However, it provides the splash of reality that an ignorant university student needs - Life is not easy.

How hard is it then?

This question haunts me.

Hah, what a crazy fool I was when I just before arriving here in Singapore. The David back then didn't know what the world would throw at him.

But seriously, you've done well, Dave. Your whole you've never face so many challenges but your attitude towards overcoming adversities and criticism has been fantastic. Though you realised that even though life goes 1000x faster here, some things like promotions and appraisals still move slowly. Im glad you've learned humility and integrity for they will be with you forever. I'm glad you said "Yes! I want!" to every opportunity that came across because you know how valuable your time here now and the fact that you are open to new ideas will make you your experience here in Singapore even more fruitful. Continue to be curious, continue to have the humility to change, and continue smiling everyday because it's what brings joy to you.

Yes, a splash of reality what got, but I continue to keep my hands stretched towards the clouds.

Yes, Life is not easy, but Life is Beautiful.

Labels: reflection

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A point to remember

I think my biggest worry at the moment is having my life slip by so quickly. With the frantic pace of my work, I am often so caught up in it that I really don't feel like stopping and chatting with anyone...i'll be very anti social to people who are not relevent directly to what i'm currently doing. And with so many last minute requests, not every action, regardless of how much effort it took to do, will get carelessly tossed aside and forgotten. It's happen to all of us some time or another. This leads me to my main Question I want to put forth: Am I missing out on Life?

How do you make sure you absorb all everyday lessons, useful habits, and important memories?

Write back and share :)

Labels: balance, focusing your life, lessons

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