Thursday, April 12, 2007

And I Cried...


I usually don't cry unless I'm in a really sad mood for a long time...but tonight I cried out of almost no where!

Two Realizations:
1. Loneliness. At that moment I really missed my family which I haven't been with for almost a year now. I am very close to them and it has always been a struggle to grow away from my family. Fortunately I have my parents who keep in contact with me virtually everyday...but it's different. Yes I miss seeing them but I miss the FEELing the love of my family, like when we're eating dinner together around the table. I'm feeling fine really! I'm not depressed, ask any of my friends, I'm a super cheerful person. Can't a guy long for what's most important in life?


2. Love. Speaking of Love, I've also realized, especially in Singapore, that I interact with people in order for them to really like and even love me. I think it's ok for me to admit that when I meet a beautiful girl, the first thing that will run through my mind is "How can I make her Love me?" As shocking as that may sound, it's a strangely familiar question both men and women ask themselves. This has lead many including myself to act in unacceptable ways towards others. In other words, I do things in for the wrong reasons.

Then how do I Love for the right reasons? If I want to love, I love with positive intentions for that person, not my gratification. I love because it's what everyone above all else only wants love. Is it possible to love someone with out romance? or sex? Yep. Friendship, brotherhood, sisterhood, and family...hood. And it feels good! If I love for the right reasons...I won't feel lonely. I will feel loved. I'm always loved because God loves me. Simple.



Back to why I cried...I cried because because I realize then that Love, this value, drives me tremendously in my life. I cried because I was lonely and felt alone but that's when I felt the Father's Love inside me as well as all the great memories of the people around me. I felt touched. I felt loved.

Ps. Dare to say things as it is. Directly. Honestly.

(PS for POE ppl: blogs are more powerful for the associated position rather from meta, don't you think?)

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Friday, March 30, 2007

How to Neutralise a Seducer




We've all seen them: the sultry temptress, the smooth Casanova, the fiery kitten.

They are all stereotypes of seducers. Whether it is by their striking beauty, or their alluring presence, or their undeniable desires, seducers tend to get their way,

So for all those who aren't naturally endowed seducers there is hope! Learn how to use utilise the seducer's tactics to maintain control (and dignity) over yourself (that is, if you choose to.)

How to Neutralise a Seducer:
  1. Acknowledge. The seducer thrives on covertness. She will rely on certain words or physical touch to trigger of desirable feelings. Learn to realise when you are being seduced. By acknowledging the seducer that yes, you are really getting seduced, the shroud of mystery disappears allowing your eyes to converse with the seducer clearly and most importantly, uninhibited. Furthermore, it sends a signal out to the seducer that, 'I am falling for your trap so easily, try again...if you dare!'
  2. Build Self-Esteem of the Seducer. The seducer will rely on making YOU feel really good about yourself that you can't help but sticking beside him. Well, there's nothing wrong about that, everyone (seducer or victim) desires to be among caring people, right? Right! So what's stopping you from making the Seducer feel good as well? By building the seducer's self-esteem (or ego) so high that he begins to FORGET about making YOU feel good that you will stop the seducer on his tracks. Make people feel good, not only for seduction, but also because it builds good character.
  3. Focus on Positive Intentions. Seducer tend to focus on short-term pleasures, and at the same time, are just like other human beings (i hope!)...they desire long lasting love, protection, understanding and family to name a few values. Seducing, in my opinion, is just a dirty shortcut to these basic human needs. It's OK. Forgive them. When you focus your mind to give only positive energy to the frequency of love, protect, understanding family etc, you start to behave in a manner that's in tune (and very desirable) with the seducer. For example, if your positive intention is make the seducer feel understood, you will genuinely start to take interest in her life, both the good and the bad parts. Once you start to appear genuine to her, she will have no choice but to put aside the mask. And that's when you start to weave your magic.
  4. Play by the Seducer's Rules...Deliberately. Coming soon...
I enjoy being seduced, it makes me feel attractive. Makes me feel that I'm doing something right in my life to attract all these beautiful people...litter ally. At the same time, I feel sorry for the seducer, for she wears a deceptive mask. I know what she truly wants, I know she wants to take it off, but is afraid people won't accept what lays behind the mask...who knows that what undeniable beauty may be discovered.

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