Where to start...
Where to start...I am Homeless.
Though I have lost a home, I have found many loyal friends.
Always a blessing.
Though I have lost a home, I have found many loyal friends.
Always a blessing.
Wednesday, May 23, 2007
Tuesday, May 01, 2007
One Year Ago...
Hello Singapore, Dave has arrived! I've been here exactly 24 hours now and I still haven't come to terms that I'm here. It'll definately take a while. David April 30, 2006
Isn't that something? I've been here a year! All I can say is that it's been DARN FAST! If life was this exciting and challenging all the time...then my life would be gone in a flash...Ok delete that thought.
Just recently I've been getting in touch with old friends from the previous chapter in my life on Facebook, and I wonder what my life would have been if I just stayed in Canada.
It would've been a LOT different from what has already happened here in Singapore. Let's do a comparison.
In Singapore...
What excites me?
The thought of eating delicious, warm and cheap food! The fact that I can learn so many things everyday! The amazing people I meet everyday and meeting my friends.
What scares me?
The thought that this can all be taken away from me in a split second. The last minute speech preparations I do for Toastmaster's competitions. How influential and successful i can actually be in this world.
What keeps me up at night?
When can i move up to the next level (to be a trainer)? Why should i change? How can I be 100x better than I was yesterday? When will I find love (or when will she find me?) Where's my family?
What Drives me?
Constant And Never Ending Improvement. To Learn as much as I can as fast as i can. To accept every opportunity that dares cross my path. To be an invaluable and indispensable asset to everyone around me. To serve others without hesitation.
What's changed?
Me. My attitude, I'm more ambitious, adventurious...I'm more cocky (ie...self confident)...I can go on days with 3 hours sleep a night. Less things scare me (like failure...deadlines...getting fired...getting rejected by...A PRETTY GIRL!). I ASK big. Able to endure tough times (like tough deadlines, no sleep, and super stress environment.) Being Humble in my job and in life. Being more neat and tidy, learned how to live with others besides my family. I learn to be more independant and not over-rely on others.
What hasn't?
My mandarin still sucks, though my listening ability has gotten a lot better. I'm still messy (always will be i guess). Still playing it safe at times. I'm Still that nice guy. (nothing wrong with being nice, even nice guys can bite ;) ) I still Love Canada!
What is the plan now?
How long will I stay in Singapore...I will say now..that I'll stay as long as the opportunities to learn and to be challenged are there. Once I feel that other places hold greater and more desirable areas of growth...I will follow the calling...Say 1 more year at least at the moment. So I'll be a trainer for a year, when i see that I can continue the fast learning curve, I will continue another year in Singapore or whereverI see myself contribute the most. I also will be taking more responsibility in Toastmasters, helping grow my club to become a place where inspirational, motivated and enthusiastic speakers come to and grow.
Whats unplanned?
A lot of things, like all those workshops coming up. hah joking.
If last year was the year of Discover, this is the year of Victory as I start to claim what is destined to be mine.
Happy 1 Year in Sunny Singapore
Thursday, April 12, 2007
And I Cried...
I usually don't cry unless I'm in a really sad mood for a long time...but tonight I cried out of almost no where!
Two Realizations:
2. Love. Speaking of Love, I've also realized, especially in Singapore, that I interact with people in order for them to really like and even love me. I think it's ok for me to admit that when I meet a beautiful girl, the first thing that will run through my mind is "How can I make her Love me?" As shocking as that may sound, it's a strangely familiar question both men and women ask themselves. This has lead many including myself to act in unacceptable ways towards others. In other words, I do things in for the wrong reasons.
Then how do I Love for the right reasons? If I want to love, I love with positive intentions for that person, not my gratification. I love because it's what everyone above all else only wants love. Is it possible to love someone with out romance? or sex? Yep. Friendship, brotherhood, sisterhood, and family...hood. And it feels good! If I love for the right reasons...I won't feel lonely. I will feel loved. I'm always loved because God loves me. Simple.
Back to why I cried...I cried because because I realize then that Love, this value, drives me tremendously in my life. I cried because I was lonely and felt alone but that's when I felt the Father's Love inside me as well as all the great memories of the people around me. I felt touched. I felt loved.
Ps. Dare to say things as it is. Directly. Honestly.
(PS for POE ppl: blogs are more powerful for the associated position rather from meta, don't you think?)
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Friday, March 30, 2007
How to Neutralise a Seducer
We've all seen them: the sultry temptress, the smooth Casanova, the fiery kitten.
They are all stereotypes of seducers. Whether it is by their striking beauty, or their alluring presence, or their undeniable desires, seducers tend to get their way,
So for all those who aren't naturally endowed seducers there is hope! Learn how to use utilise the seducer's tactics to maintain control (and dignity) over yourself (that is, if you choose to.)
How to Neutralise a Seducer:
- Acknowledge. The seducer thrives on covertness. She will rely on certain words or physical touch to trigger of desirable feelings. Learn to realise when you are being seduced. By acknowledging the seducer that yes, you are really getting seduced, the shroud of mystery disappears allowing your eyes to converse with the seducer clearly and most importantly, uninhibited. Furthermore, it sends a signal out to the seducer that, 'I am falling for your trap so easily, try again...if you dare!'
- Build Self-Esteem of the Seducer. The seducer will rely on making YOU feel really good about yourself that you can't help but sticking beside him. Well, there's nothing wrong about that, everyone (seducer or victim) desires to be among caring people, right? Right! So what's stopping you from making the Seducer feel good as well? By building the seducer's self-esteem (or ego) so high that he begins to FORGET about making YOU feel good that you will stop the seducer on his tracks. Make people feel good, not only for seduction, but also because it builds good character.
- Focus on Positive Intentions. Seducer tend to focus on short-term pleasures, and at the same time, are just like other human beings (i hope!)...they desire long lasting love, protection, understanding and family to name a few values. Seducing, in my opinion, is just a dirty shortcut to these basic human needs. It's OK. Forgive them. When you focus your mind to give only positive energy to the frequency of love, protect, understanding family etc, you start to behave in a manner that's in tune (and very desirable) with the seducer. For example, if your positive intention is make the seducer feel understood, you will genuinely start to take interest in her life, both the good and the bad parts. Once you start to appear genuine to her, she will have no choice but to put aside the mask. And that's when you start to weave your magic.
- Play by the Seducer's Rules...Deliberately. Coming soon...
Monday, March 26, 2007
Me in Pictures
You may find this interesting...found it on Celine's blog.
So powerful a picture can be...
So powerful a picture can be...